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|31st March 2004, 23:27||#21|
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|1st April 2004, 02:25||#22|
well for starters, you're only 15.
But you really need to make an effort to socialise.
I've got the same problem, I can go out with my friends and have tons of fun, or I can sit home and read a book, surf on the internet, play games, go to the fitness, all by myself without ever really feeling the need off having people arround me.
That's my problem, (one of many ) You see I'm not exactly mr social eather but when I go out, I'm having more fun then when I'm doing something alone, it's just making the effort of getting out there, talking to people and more of that (it's a bit sad but alcohol really does help here ) I still find it hard to talk about something I don't really care about, I still need people who share my interests to really get a conversation going. But those people are out there.
And if you don't have friends in school, change school or hold out, things can change for the better.
When I was your age, I didn't have a lot of friends, only 2 close friends at that time, or so I thought cuz they turned on me when another guy joined the group and turned on me, pestering turned into menacing, and I just let them and that was my mistake. But the next year things totally tunred arround. I made new friends and they weren't new at school, they were there the previous year aswell. that **** that joined halfway the previous year and bullied me, well I got back at him, and the only reason that this was possible for me was because I was more comfident about myself (now I bullied him :grin: ) and as for those 2 "friends", they were left with no friends that year.
I'm not trying to tell my lifestory here, I'm just trying to show you that things can change, all it takes is a little selfconfidence.
things won't change over night though, If you're a very timid and inconfident person, it'll take you years, and you'll have to work on it year in year out, you just gotta hold on.
As for hobby's, can't help you out there mate, you gotta find out what you like doing But I'll give you another example: I used to not be interested AT ALL in motorised vehicles... untill I got my first scooter, now I love working on scoots, and I love driving everything that can make a descent speed hobby's come and go as I said a bit back, it an go from playing pc games to reading a book to tinkering on my scoot to racing the carts to playing poole to drawing to ... you get the point It doesn't mean I'm good at it, it means I love doing it, and yes, some of these hobby's cost tons of money, but since you're going on 16, you'll be able to do some vacationjobs to earn some money. then comes the question if you're willing to spend that money on those hobby's
nways, I hope it helps